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Uggggh.

I interviewed for a job I really wanted yesterday and am almost positive I won’t get an offer.

Feel like crap today.

Any words of wisdom or encouragement appreciated.

Thank you.

appleluxx wrote: husband cheated on me...for 7 months 3 months after we got married. I forgave him but he’s never home. He’s always working or at the gym or playing games or with the guys. I sleep (literally, snooze) next to him every night. That’s pretty much it. In total I spend about 5-6 hours with him every week (composed of 7 days). To make it worse my car broke down so I can’t even go out to see something nice...clouds or whatever. He’s too busy to take me out anywhere...he drops me off at work in the mornings and a co-worker brings me back home since I live so close to work. I go days without ever going outside. Eventually, Instagram, Facebook and books get tiring. Sometimes I stare at the window or have intense conversation with my dog (lol). I have friends but none close enough I can talk to about this. Litt typed “I’m so lonely” on Google and this popped up.

Hi appleluxx,

I’m really sorry to hear about your predicament. It sounds like you are going through a bit of a boring patch at the minute, but please know that things can, and will, change for the better.

At the end of the day, you have to put together a daily routine/strategy which is going to pull you out of this lull. Only you have the power to do it. You are never going to find it on social media, so don’t even go there. But try incorporating some new things in your life, mix it up. Whether that be a new hobby, a side earner, new friends, exercise, there’s literally a million things you can choose from.

Sure, it might seem quite daunting at first, but keep plugging away and good things will happen. The point is you can always be filling those moments of boredom with something worthwhile.

With that being said, your husband does have a duty - especially after cheating on you after 3 months - to be making more of an effort. Working and going to the gym is understandable, but playing games and hanging out with the guys isn’t, so you need to have a talk with him, but WITHOUT bringing up his infidelity. Try and find some common ground and see if you can start off by doing some new things together, even if it is only for half an hour each week, and take things from there. Don’t be disheartened if he doesn’t go for it right away. Yes, he should be making a lot more effort, but as I say, you’ve got to focus on yourself and getting rid of that bored state right now. Find some happiness inside yourself and then you’ll see that slowly but surely everything will start falling into place.

And keep us posted with how you get on.

i forgot to state the obvious: there is a good chance, that your husband is simply very, very tired after a week of work, the gym, etc. he should still up his game, but...you gotta give the man some incentive girl

appleluxx wrote: husband cheated on me...for 7 months 3 months after we got married. I forgave him but he’s never home. He’s always working or at the gym or playing games or with the guys. I sleep (literally, snooze) next to him every night. That’s pretty much it. In total I spend about 5-6 hours with him every week (composed of 7 days). To make it worse my car broke down so I can’t even go out to see something nice...clouds or whatever. He’s too busy to take me out anywhere...he drops me off at work in the mornings and a co-worker brings me back home since I live so close to work. I go days without ever going outside. Eventually, Instagram, Facebook and books get tiring. Sometimes I stare at the window or have intense conversation with my dog (lol). I have friends but none close enough I can talk to about this. Litt typed “I’m so lonely” on Google and this popped up.

you should take more walks. I obviously don’t know where you live or what the full situation is, but walking is good for the body and the mind

as for your husband, well it is not uncommon for men, especially married men, to be really busy with their work. And theres nothing wrong with the gym. however, combine the two (and “going out with the guys”, and that can take up most of a persons time

That being said, he should make time for you. If he really is cheating on you, then something is wrong with the relationship here. now, remember this: people do, what they can. and if they can, they will do what they want. at any given time. so, what do you do? sure, you can try to make it so he “can’t” do what he wants ie by being forceful, or just straight not give a fuck with the “no man is going to affect my happiness”, but...why do that, when you can make it so he wants you. this man has options; you gotta be the option he wants to come home to at night

one way or another, you gotta up your game appleluxx.

husband cheated on me...for 7 months 3 months after we got married. I forgave him but he’s never home. He’s always working or at the gym or playing games or with the guys. I sleep (literally, snooze) next to him every night. That’s pretty much it. In total I spend about 5-6 hours with him every week (composed of 7 days). To make it worse my car broke down so I can’t even go out to see something nice...clouds or whatever. He’s too busy to take me out anywhere...he drops me off at work in the mornings and a co-worker brings me back home since I live so close to work. I go days without ever going outside. Eventually, Instagram, Facebook and books get tiring. Sometimes I stare at the window or have intense conversation with my dog (lol). I have friends but none close enough I can talk to about this. Litt typed “I’m so lonely” on Google and this popped up.

i feel a little lot alone

Ahhh I remember the old days

What a brilliant meme.

I’ll be your friend. But if you don’t want me to just to prove your point, then it’s your choice to have no friends at all. Don’t say it is not.

i have no friends at all. it is true, don’t say it is not.