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VRS wrote: Don’t really know what to do. So maybe some advice would be nice.My grades are bad, my health is bad, my relationships are bad, my future looks bad. I don’t eat properly, sleep properly, or drink enough water daily simply because I don’t care to. In terms of relationships, I don’t think I have any friends because I consider no one my friend.

Last year I met a girl. We clicked and became good friends though I ditched her a lot. Once we planned to hang out and I cancelled at the last minute. Now we’re not really good friends anymore which is my fault.

Anyway after a while I got to know that a lot of people talk bad about me. The girl also confirmed this telling me she was only telling me because she thought of me as a good friend. A lot of people think I’m weird or annoying. I always manage to put myself in embarassing situations.

I’m talented at acting stupid I guess. Once, I sneezed in class and stood up from my seat and walked up to a bottle of soap thinking it was sanitizer. When I realized it was soap, I started to look around the room and walk more trying to find the sanitizer instead of sitting down.

Another time my hands slipped in class and the laptop in my hands landed like 50 meters away. Kind of scarring.

Also, in the middle of taking a test, I looked up, realized the clock was missing, and asked my teacher why it was missing. This is because I usually used my watch to see the time I have left when taking tests, but I lost my watch recently. When I looked up to see if I could use the clock to pace myself better, I saw it was missing. What if this clock remains missing for the next few tests and quizzes too? How will I pace myself? My teacher needs to put his clock in the correct place on the wall! Were the thoughts going through my head. Only afterwards did I realize how mentally retarded that thinking process was. I think differently from normal people maybe.
Apparently this one girl thought my laptop incident and clock incident were good things to talk about with other people haha.Can’t blame her honestly.

Another time I had a very HUGE pimple on my nose that bled multiple times. My parents told me to bandage it because it was bleeding so much. So I went to school with a bandaid on my nose. My teacher asked what happened to my nose. Uh oh. I can’t say its a pimple so I said it was a minor injury. For some reason, the whole class laughed.

Stopping in the middle of a hallway once, throwing a book at a girl’s face once to shut her up( OK i am against violence UGH I regretted this so much I felt like killing myself it was the one time in my life where i hurt someone holy god!!!!!)

This one time I went to school with extremely short shorts on because that was all I could find in my closet. My parents got me jeans but it was too late because the bus was about to leave so I put the jeans in my backpack and boarded the bus with...short shorts on. Then at school I changed in the restroom. Afterwards too girls came up to me and asked me if I came to school with short shorts on. No point in denying but I tried anyway, which made me look weirder.

For half a semester I came to school with slippers on because I didn’t want to bother my parents and ask for shoes. That didn’t go too well.

I used to just interrupt in conversations all the time because I thought that was how people normally talked to each other. Then I realized that that wasn’t the case.

This one time, I happened to meet a guy I made fun of in the past once. Instead of you look different, I went woah what a glow up. I did that because I felt bad about my stupid rude behavior in the past and wanted to compliment him properly to make up for it. But I guess that was too extreme for him he ended up getting the wrong idea and fled.

Its probably because of things like this that people think like that about me lol. Honestly when I think back on all these things I feel like laughing myself. Maybe its the way I think is kind of slow and difficult for other people to understand. Also even in comversation, I tend to suck at expressing myself properly sometimes. Though with certain people I don’t suck at all.

I may be mentally retarded and a little too innocent and clumsy. Although my mom told me I scored well on some Gifted and Talented test, I clearly lack a lot in terms of social intelligence. I can be a good conversationalist when I want to be but I also do stupid things like the ones above.

I also don’t really understand why people make friends or date. It seems stupid to waste a lot of precious hours thinking about and talking to people. I’m kind of interested in this concept of social life everyone else seems to care so much about, but to make commitments and waste time on something like this I don’t see the point. I feel bad that I am constantly ruining my reputation though. I just make too many more mistakes than the average person. A lot of social blunders. Its hard to just keep myself from doing stupid things though.

All the other areas of my life also suck. And this is a great addition.I don’t do any homework or study AT ALL(0 hours daily spent on school) nor do i pay attention in class. My grades have dropped three letter grades in the past two years.

I have lowish self esteem partly due to a not so great appearance(another reason people look down on me for). But again, why would I waste my time caring? Occasionally, I feel bad about my appearance but I really don’t care most of the time.

So I suck at everything and have literally no motivation in life. The relationship sector of life seems to be lacking and adding on to my number of problems,along with the impending academic sector and health sector.




You, sir, are one sad troll.

May I suggest that instead of making up such ridiculous stories in an attempt to make yourself feel better, that you try taking up something which will keep your mind occupied?

[Reply] #44,922
05-08-2018 10:53 AM
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not lonely wrote: I found this thread by following a link in a Wikipedia article while researching something entirely different. Curiosity in my insomnia hours brought me here. I’m not necessarily lonely, but wanted to touch this little piece of internet history.

I first got access to the internet in 1996. One of the first things I stumbled into was Yahoo chat rooms. At that time, I was married but very lonely. The communication with others relieved my loneliness, and to this day I am still communicating with the same group of people I met then. We built real relationships, some met each other “in real life” and married (multiple couples actually). We went on to form our own forum and even had multiple websites that we managed to have a place for pictures, chat rooms, and other design features such as newsletters. Now we just have Facebook communication these 20+ years later.

My marriage ended in 2009, but I was quite lonely within it for a long time. I can’t tell you how much solice I found in having the ability to reach out to a global online community and ease that a little bit.

I am in a new long term relationship this many years later and have a very full life, but still make internet friends on occasion. I’m pretty busy in what I still refer to as “real life”, but always seem to fall back on my friend 'the internet' when I feel a little alone inside.

If you are lonely, I hope reading my history gives you hope. As a suggestion, join some meetup groups and do some things you have in common with others. Sitting alone at home and moping only spirals into more lonliness. It’s a challenge to go somewhere for the first time alone, but we all like a good challenge, right? Go into character mode and make yourself chit chat. Go on a hike, ride a bike, whatever your interest is, just make yourself do it. You will meet other lonely’s and you will not be lonely long. Good luck.

KLA




^^This.

Some excellent advice and insight right there from KLA.

Great job. I hope all the lonely people visiting this page get to read it.

[Reply] #44,923
05-17-2018 10:25 PM
charlieislonely
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I知 lonely too guys and I have people around me all the time it seems

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05-17-2018 10:26 PM
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ayy mang whats up my dude my git whos it goin my guy ayy was good its my dude its my ddududu

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05-17-2018 11:06 PM
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EDITED BY the internet rebel

Special note to “someone_from_nj”

I deleted your ridiculous post for reasons that we both know and which I don’t need to go into detail here.

But don’t worry. I won’t, as you so eloquently put it, “post a bunch of bullying crap” about you. I’ve got better things to do with my time, such as helping people with genuine issues, and not entertaining people whose issues are far outside of the scope of this forum.

By all means, feel free to post on this forum if you are able to act like a mature adult. Best of luck with the lurking in the meanwhile.

Moderated 06-05-2018 03:56 AM by the internet rebel
[Reply] #44,926
05-20-2018 04:05 PM
Fairylady
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Why are you lonely? Are you on your own?
Don稚 worry i値l talk to you. So, what are you doing now, i知 eating chocolate ice cream in fairy land. Close your eyes and dream of a better place and you値l see me, you should feel better now..i致e sprinkled my magic dust over you.

[Reply] #44,927
05-22-2018 12:12 AM
VNGL
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VRS wrote: Don’t really know what to do. So maybe some advice would be nice.My grades are bad, my health is bad, my relationships are bad, my future looks bad. I don’t eat properly, sleep properly, or drink enough water daily simply because I don’t care to. In terms of relationships, I don’t think I have any friends because I consider no one my friend.

Last year I met a girl. We clicked and became good friends though I ditched her a lot. Once we planned to hang out and I cancelled at the last minute. Now we’re not really good friends anymore which is my fault.

Anyway after a while I got to know that a lot of people talk bad about me. The girl also confirmed this telling me she was only telling me because she thought of me as a good friend. A lot of people think I’m weird or annoying. I always manage to put myself in embarassing situations.

I’m talented at acting stupid I guess. Once, I sneezed in class and stood up from my seat and walked up to a bottle of soap thinking it was sanitizer. When I realized it was soap, I started to look around the room and walk more trying to find the sanitizer instead of sitting down.

Another time my hands slipped in class and the laptop in my hands landed like 50 meters away. Kind of scarring.

Also, in the middle of taking a test, I looked up, realized the clock was missing, and asked my teacher why it was missing. This is because I usually used my watch to see the time I have left when taking tests, but I lost my watch recently. When I looked up to see if I could use the clock to pace myself better, I saw it was missing. What if this clock remains missing for the next few tests and quizzes too? How will I pace myself? My teacher needs to put his clock in the correct place on the wall! Were the thoughts going through my head. Only afterwards did I realize how mentally retarded that thinking process was. I think differently from normal people maybe.
Apparently this one girl thought my laptop incident and clock incident were good things to talk about with other people haha.Can’t blame her honestly.

Another time I had a very HUGE pimple on my nose that bled multiple times. My parents told me to bandage it because it was bleeding so much. So I went to school with a bandaid on my nose. My teacher asked what happened to my nose. Uh oh. I can’t say its a pimple so I said it was a minor injury. For some reason, the whole class laughed.

Stopping in the middle of a hallway once, throwing a book at a girl’s face once to shut her up( OK i am against violence UGH I regretted this so much I felt like killing myself it was the one time in my life where i hurt someone holy god!!!!!)

This one time I went to school with extremely short shorts on because that was all I could find in my closet. My parents got me jeans but it was too late because the bus was about to leave so I put the jeans in my backpack and boarded the bus with...short shorts on. Then at school I changed in the restroom. Afterwards too girls came up to me and asked me if I came to school with short shorts on. No point in denying but I tried anyway, which made me look weirder.

For half a semester I came to school with slippers on because I didn’t want to bother my parents and ask for shoes. That didn’t go too well.

I used to just interrupt in conversations all the time because I thought that was how people normally talked to each other. Then I realized that that wasn’t the case.

This one time, I happened to meet a guy I made fun of in the past once. Instead of you look different, I went woah what a glow up. I did that because I felt bad about my stupid rude behavior in the past and wanted to compliment him properly to make up for it. But I guess that was too extreme for him he ended up getting the wrong idea and fled.

Its probably because of things like this that people think like that about me lol. Honestly when I think back on all these things I feel like laughing myself. Maybe its the way I think is kind of slow and difficult for other people to understand. Also even in comversation, I tend to suck at expressing myself properly sometimes. Though with certain people I don’t suck at all.

I may be mentally retarded and a little too innocent and clumsy. Although my mom told me I scored well on some Gifted and Talented test, I clearly lack a lot in terms of social intelligence. I can be a good conversationalist when I want to be but I also do stupid things like the ones above.

I also don’t really understand why people make friends or date. It seems stupid to waste a lot of precious hours thinking about and talking to people. I’m kind of interested in this concept of social life everyone else seems to care so much about, but to make commitments and waste time on something like this I don’t see the point. I feel bad that I am constantly ruining my reputation though. I just make too many more mistakes than the average person. A lot of social blunders. Its hard to just keep myself from doing stupid things though.

All the other areas of my life also suck. And this is a great addition.I don’t do any homework or study AT ALL(0 hours daily spent on school) nor do i pay attention in class. My grades have dropped three letter grades in the past two years.

I have lowish self esteem partly due to a not so great appearance(another reason people look down on me for). But again, why would I waste my time caring? Occasionally, I feel bad about my appearance but I really don’t care most of the time.

So I suck at everything and have literally no motivation in life. The relationship sector of life seems to be lacking and adding on to my number of problems,along with the impending academic sector and health sector.



Note: Language, national and cultural barriers may make this message hard to convey especially as each country has its own schooling system and social context and as such, some things I say may not apply. However, I will try my best to help you, as someone who went through more or less the same issues as you.

It seems to me as though you have no will to really better yourself except for your social issues and even then, it seems you are not asking for much. The best way to be better at something is not only to keep doing it, but also to try different ways to approach what you want to achieve and never give up nor be easy on yourself.

Your grades will improve if you listen when the teacher speaks, study and do your homework. If you cannot do this yourself or if you are not doing it because of various reasons, ask your school’s appropriate resources for help. The best resource is probably the teachers themselves. They are the experts of what they are teacher and their advice is priceless. I am not aware of how your school works but if you have access to homework help sessions, it could be a great idea to attend those. Other resources are school staff such as psychiatrists, the school nurse, an educator, etc.

Sometimes, there are nice classmates that like helping their fellow students. Ask for tips! They may agreeably surprise you. There are no bad targets, the worst responses you’ll have are along the lines of “I don’t know” and “I don’t want to talk about it”. If your reputation of idiot is really solid, your fellow students may even pity you and/or act as if it was their personal mission to enlighten you. Be careful, as they may still not like you and only help you out of a sense of obligation. Even though your relationship is strained, the best person to ask for help is your friend.

You may have special needs to complete your education, talk with your parents and your school’s appropriate instances to see if you could apply for special aid. Speaking of your parents, they generally are your best supporters, if you ask them for help, they may be able to help you with your academic issues (or even other issues and questions)or they will most probably be able to obtain for you the help you need. Of course, I understand this is not always the case. Try other close family members if this fails.

As for the rest, I don’t think you really need friends. Some people are happier with a small circle of friends or no friends at all. You are probably introverted. Introverts are naturally inept in social situations and generally gain their energy from other activities and hobbies that they can do alone. However, I greatly recommend that you find at least one or two persons who share the same hobbies/passions as it can lead to interesting discussions which will enrich your social skills while you are talking about stuff you like.

There are two ways that I have improved my social skills:

My first method is to ask people what I’m doing wrong and what I should do instead. Then I make it my mission to improve on what I’ve been doing wrong. Explain your situation to people, tell them that you that you have difficulties when it comes to socializing and that you are trying to become better. Those who show themselves to be hostile to your questions have not attained a level of maturity sufficient enough for you to take their words at face value, simply ignore them.

My second method is less effective, but still works most of the time. I observe what other people do in a similar situation. I will sometime be the last to participate in a specific activity to make sure that through observing the reactions and actions of others that I know what to do and say.

You do not need a girlfriend. There are 6 potential reasons:

1. You have not reached this mental progression yet, puberty will do its work eventually. It’s a question of time.

2. You are asexual.

3. You are demisexual.

4. You are demiromantic.

5. You are aromantic.

6. A combination of the above.

The first reason is the most probable one. Give yourself the time to grow up. Some take longer than others to. In theory, the mind has completed its evolution once you are 25 years old, but most people are in the dating game once they reach 18 years old.

You should definitely try to drink more water. If you don’t hydrate yourself properly, it can lead to dehydration. Dehydration will cause many easily preventable problems to your body and they’re not very nice to endure. I had for a while, constipation. Luckily, I didn’t have hemorrhoids, but the irritation resulting from constipation certainly caused great pain and could have lead to hemorrhoids in the long run. Other problems will be a lack of concentration, that annoying feeling of thirst or dry throat, general lack of physical and psychic energy, etc.

Anyways, I’ll be watching this thread for a while, if you have any other questions or if you somehow feel loneliness, I’ll be there to reply.

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05-22-2018 09:06 PM
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wow. i remember seeing this thread a long time ago and thinking nothing of it. i’d check back now and then, but at some point, i forgot about it. it’s beautiful how the internet has brought together literally thousands of lonely people. i wonder how many are still lonely? some of us-- like me-- are only now lonely.

i wonder how much longer this thread will live on. there were some trolls and cruel people along the way, but i hope that for even just a little while longer, this thread will continue to inspire people like me. i’m healthy, i have a few friends, but i still feel alone. isn’t it funny, how the more people you have, the lonelier you are?

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vellichor- wrote: wow. i remember seeing this thread a long time ago and thinking nothing of it. i’d check back now and then, but at some point, i forgot about it. it’s beautiful how the internet has brought together literally thousands of lonely people. i wonder how many are still lonely? some of us-- like me-- are only now lonely.

i wonder how much longer this thread will live on. there were some trolls and cruel people along the way, but i hope that for even just a little while longer, this thread will continue to inspire people like me. i’m healthy, i have a few friends, but i still feel alone. isn’t it funny, how the more people you have, the lonelier you are?




I like to think that this thread will outlive us all by a long stretch. It’s certainly done a great job of outliving the cruel haters, that’s for sure. As you’ve probably seen, though, there’s the odd troll still about reeling in the gullible...

Sorry to hear that you’re feeling lonely, though. By the sounds of things, you’ve got people around you, but you could be lacking in the kind of fulfilling relationship which would rid you of that lonely feeling. Feel free to share on here any time, we’ll always try to help out if we can.

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FIND BELIEF IN YOURSELF

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05-29-2018 05:30 PM
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I知 just going to spam in this thread until I get a thousand so I can rep.

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EDITED BY the internet rebel

Special note to “God of Conquest”

Your plan might have worked - only I’ve gone and deleted all of your spam posts. Better luck next time.

Moderated 06-05-2018 04:03 AM by the internet rebel
[Reply] #44,933
05-31-2018 07:31 PM
msemmy
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I am lonely too...

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06-01-2018 01:24 AM
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You know what? Fuck it this site is boring.

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06-05-2018 03:59 AM
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See you later then. We need to keep this forum open for people who are feeling genuinely lonely and your contribution on here is about as helpful as a hole in the head.

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